My Exegesis

Due in part to spending the past few days with a truly genuine man and comparing that to someone who I have slowly come to see as highly deceitful; I've decided to use my creative license and ever so liberally anonymously bash an ex-friend of mine.

Why do men cheat? Why betray someone who loves and adores in exchange fore a few forgettable moments of pleasure? Some might mystify the dirty facts and blow fairy dust on the truth to make it seem more noble than it is. But the fact of the matter is that men (or anyone) will cheat because they are ass holes. Because they're childish. Because they're scared and insecure. Because they have no idea who or what they are and need approval from people they know they haven't damaged (yet). Because they think they are the grand exception to the rule, and somehow don't have to answer to the petty guidelines that others try to abide by.

I had the "pleasure" of feeling the respect I once had for someone slowly drain out of my body and die because he can't seem to keep his dick in his pants. I had one of those epiphanies where I saw his truth in a flash of light as if I were giving a long speech in front of a crowd of people; suddenly chuckling to myself as I so vividly pictured them all naked. I hate it when people become laughable.

Well, friend, you are just that. Laughable. I genuinely hope you wake up and realize that an apology IS needed. You SHOULD be ashamed. You SHOULD get on your knees and thank the stars that someone who hasn't realized how much better than you they are has allowed you a second chance. You wreak of self-importance. Stop being so fucking pompous. It's unattractive and you can't carry it off.

Now, back to your regularly scheduled programming.

(©2009 Lotus B.)

World AIDS Day

Today is World AIDS day, and if there is anything I can do as a blogger to bring awareness of this epidemic that plagues millions of people every day it's pure, simple facts...

-In 2006 there was an estimated 533,000+ people living with HIV in 33 US states (counted among areas with confidential infection reporting)

-Within those states, it's estimated that close to 3500 people will be infected with HIV before the age of 25.

-In New York alone, over 170,000 people were living with HIV in 2005

-The highest population of HIV/AIDS infected people in New York are African Americans at 44%

One of the highest risks a person can take when it comes to HIV or AIDS infection is messing with drugs that severely impair your judgement or involve fluid sharing (like heroin or cocaine use.)

The best prevention is to never share needles, and always use a condom until you are in a committed, monogamous relationship.

There is NOTHING wrong with asking Mr. Handsome if he's been tested, when and how often before things get physical. If Mr. Handsome finds this question to be offensive...that's a hint he probably doesn't feel too comfortable walking into a clinic every 6 months.

Perfectly clean people can be infected with HIV.

And you can have HIV for up to 10 years (sometimes longer) before you show any signs of infection.

The only way to know for sure is to get tested. Get tested every 6 months and between every partner. For a list of testing facilities and free clinics in your area please click here.