Thursday, December 31, 2009

2010 New Year Resolution





I can't even REMEMBER what my resolution for 2009 was. I'm sure it involved a lot of things I no longer have in my life now, so I'm taking a big fat eraser and starting over with a new one. 2009 clearly sucked. I lost two boyfriends, a city and a waistline not to mention a few friends. But going forward I'm setting a few goals I hope to reach in 2010.
  1. Move back to New York

  2. Finish my degree and teach

  3. Buy a really good camera and start doing photography

  4. Finish my book (and submit it to publishers)

  5. Spend an ENTIRE year (12 months) sans boyfriend

  6. Take a trip out of the country (even if it's just Canada)

  7. Continue my pursuit to become 100% freelance (till I'm done with school)

  8. Turn BurnOut NY into New York's premier go-to website for all things fab

  9. Shop my ass off and re-work my wardrobe

  10. Return to my size 6 jeans (w/o muffin top)

I think even more important than the goals we set for ourselves are the lessons we learn. So here, in addition are a few lessons I learned in 2009.

  1. Don't ever move to Texas. Ever.

  2. The most important thing in a relationship is that you live in the same city already.

  3. Punching your blackberry will not make it work better.

  4. Vegetarians can get fat.

  5. Ex-boyfriends should be used as sex toys, nothing more.

  6. The best medicine in life is booze.

  7. Settling means you convince yourself it's OK to feel horrible more often than good.

  8. Judging others is sometimes necessary to keep bullshit out of your life.

  9. Don't allow anyone (not even family) to make you feel worthless.

  10. No matter what....you can always go home again.

(©2009 Lotus B.)

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Saying Goodbye to a Truly Fucked Off Year


I've been trying to avoid the inevitable reality, which is that come New Years eve I'll have absolutely no where to be. This would be the second time this has happened in my entire life, and this is somehow by far the worst of the two occurrences.

The first time, I was about 20 years old. I had just gone through the worst Christmas Eve break up of all time with the worst ex-fiance of all time. I was depressed and fat for various reasons. My attempt at suicide proved to be short lived since I ran into my mother and grandmother at the grocery store as I shopped for lethal items to off myself. So I gave up on giving up and instead was faced with the silence of New Years Eve. I laid in my bed and prayed that somehow my heart would stop and I wouldn't have to face another year. Instead, I fell asleep before the count down and upon waking decided to vigorously look for a new job (which I found). Things changed, slowly after that. But somehow here I am back in almost the same position.

Only this time I'm miles away from everyone. D has proved to be one of those estranged ex-boyfriends who looks at you as if you don't have an epic of a past together. And aside from him there is no one here. I've done so well at avoiding everyone that I couldn't even invite myself somewhere for the evening. In all honesty, I don't want to be anywhere. New Years is no fun if your out with people who annoy you. I thought about taking a cab to a downtown bar, dressing up and treating myself to all the alcohol I could afford stand, but then I don't see why I should get slushy drunk in public when I can do it, probably better, in the privacy of my own apartment.

I know this sounds pretty awful. So here is the part that makes me feel that despite this shit hole of a holiday season, I'm still better off than most people. So what if New Years, Christmas and Thanksgiving blew chunks? After February I am rid of this stinking ass city and it's brown water and beige people. I'm rid of D's cascading looks of boredom. I get to go home for a bit and be in beautiful California with the best mom in the world and the cutest grandma ever. I get to do nothing but relax and chill out with all my old friends and all my cousins. Then I get to skip my merry ass back to New York where I belong. I get to continue with all the things I have planned for myself in a place where I love to be. I get to be around my best friend and all the people who inspire me to keep reaching for what I want.

So maybe 2009 has proven to be the year from hell. OK. Well at least come Thursday I get to bury that bitch where it belongs. It's gonna be a messy burial, so it's best I do it alone. Just me and Jack Daniels saying "Fuck you 2009!" and promising myself NEVER to compromise my dreams for anyone else again.

(©2009 Lotus B.)

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Death of a Blackberry

I suppose that'll teach me to be so damned dependant on my blackberry...

It all began last week when Valentine attempted to call me. I was sitting on the edge of my bed, staring at my phone which had just lit up like a birthday cake, but couldn't show an incoming call or message because of that annoying little hour glass that was infinitely flipping over and over, as if I was somehow inconveniencing it with my silly phone calls. "Hold on a min..I SAID HOLD ON A MINUTE!" it seemed to say as I bit my bottom lip, knowing poor Valentine was taking the few minutes out of his hectic work schedule he could manage to call me. Any other day I would have answered by the third ring, but now I was helplessly glaring at my blackberry as if it was a screaming baby or a post office worker.


"My time is valuable! I am a person deserving of respect and forbearance!! Heed me!! HEEEED ME!!"

But it didn't matter what I screamed at the thing, it continued displaying the hour glass as my missed call icon began to tally three missed calls and a voicemail. Finally after ten minutes my phone completed whatever task that was more important than my relationship and I started calling Valentine back. I pressed the call button to pull up my call log and JUST as I was about to press "send" to call him back I was met with part two of the hour glass horror show. "Nooooooooooooooooo!" I screamed. I held the device in my left hand in disbelief and without even blinking balled up my right fist and plowed into the face of my blackberry, faintly catching junior high school flashbacks of my first fight with Damion Black who refused to keep his hands off of my developing boobs in computer class. For the moment relief took over my cheeks and I felt better. Then I saw the damage. A giant crack was stretched across my screen. Not sure why, but I still didn't panic. I was strangely satisfied as I watched my phone turn itself off then sheepishly back on as if trying to (you'll pardon the expression) save "face".

Well, now it's days later and I've already received my replacement phone (ALWAYS get the insurance plan, it works if you work it), and switched all my data and applications to the shiny, new unscratched, un-cracked device. Yet here I sit, lightly tapping my phone's screen with my fingernail. "Um hello?..." I whisper as I try to send an email- nothing.

As I'm told by my provider that all blackberry users are having issues due to a nation wide outage, I suddenly wonder how many insurance claims I can submit before they cancel my policy....


(©2009 Lotus B.)

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Brittany Murphy- Dead @ 32

Brittany MurphyBrittany Murphy via last.fm

I'm not in anyway a celeb blogger, and I'm not even a cliche love story movie watcher...but strangest thing ever. I was bored and started watching this movie, Love and Other Disasters. Sipping coffee and just kind of zoning out. It's staring Brittany Murphy, who I always thought was just as adorable as she is annoying. Then a friend on Facebook posts that Murphy died this morning.

32 years old. Dead. Not only was it sad, it was just plain weird that I was randomly watching the kind of movie I don't normally watch with her playing the lead character.


Another young star gone due to addiction. It's as much sad as it is annoying.

(©2009 Lotus B.)

Monday, December 7, 2009

Yay Mom!!

It's my favorite time of the year again!! California time. In less than 48 hours I'll be back in Cali with my family, friends and my baby-poo Valentine. I can't wait to hug my mom and sis and kiss my Grams.


And that's really all I have to say. ♥
(©2009 Lotus B.)
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Saturday, December 5, 2009

There Words Are Not Magical

i love you
i have your back
i'm interested
it will work out
i'm not crying
you're my best friend
i promise
i'm sorry
i wish...
i'm fine
don't worry about it
i'm just joking

the above phrases do not hold magic powers. when you say them nothing physical happens to you or the person you say them to. time does not stop, rewind or fast forward. things do not un-happen. people do not become beautiful or less appealing. tears do not evaporate. the world does not shake. money does not appear from thin air. people do not come back from the dead. memories are not erased.

these phrases are just words. letters and nouns collectively combined to make the sounds consistent with American English. Air is press out between your lips and your throat vibrates. that little punching bag in the back of your mouth wiggles. you might spit a little. you might say these words with conviction, or bass, or determination or fear. you might feel god swimming through you as you say these phrases. you might even believe them to be, but they are not and never will be magical.

they are just words.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

I'm getting sick...no I'm not...Ugh

Edwin Aldrin wearing the A7L spacesuit on the ...Image via Wikipedia

7 days till I go home to Cali, and here I am beginning to sniffle.

I can always tell when a cold is coming because my contact lenses start to feel like their trying very hard to annoy me.

I took my temperature; 97.7, whatever the fuck that even means.

I listened to Valentine's hush tone over the phone as he stepped out of work for the second time to check on me. "Wish I could put an apron on and make you tea and soup." he said. I laughed.

"Just an apron, right, nothing else?" I verified.

"Uh. Nah...I'd have on, you know, like the NASA space suit."

I laughed and he continued....

"With the, uh, with the apron on....don't wanna catch nothin"

My smile turned to a laugh, which turned to a cough.

Not sexy.

(©2009 Lotus B.)

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

World AIDS Day 2009



AIDS is a PREVENTABLE disease. 2 Million GONE in 2008.

(©2009 Lotus B.)

Adventures in Office| The Mystery of the Poster Bandit


About a month and a half ago my boss came to me and asked if I knew who was posting all the haphazardly placed posters around the office and the entire 7th floor. I figured this was his way of asking if I'd done it. "No idea," I replied, "But it's been pissin me off too." He agreed and since then I've made it my mission to solve this mystery.


Whoever they are, they might be suffering from a severe balance disorder, because every company issued announcement that they litter our walls with is crooked and secured with VERY visible scotch tape. I've armed myself with a roll of double sided tape and I plan on rectifying this inconsideration as soon as I finish my broccoli noodle bowl.


Now, if only I had clearance to take down those ridiculous Christmas reefs that are cluttering the hallway. Ba-Humbug


(©2009 Lotus B.)

Fin

Yesterday while pacing nervously down the isles of Target, I told D that I have a new boyfriend. I felt like a newly converted atheist, casually saying goodbye to God. Not that D is like God. But the feeling of permanence that comes with a relationship that lasts for a while, is something that doesn't just disappear. It becomes a shadow on the wall maybe. A ghost.


As usual, he remained calm. A familiar cold set into my bones, as I pretended to browse the beverage section in the back of the store. He asked a few questions, which I answered honestly. It lead to me telling him that Valentine moving to New York with me was in the works. That he was willing to leave his job and take a chance on a different kind of life. Despite the cold winters of Brooklyn. Despite giving up his BMW to take the train. Despite every inconvenience one might see when thinking about that kind of urban life. It gave me a shameful sense of satisfaction. That's right, I thought for a brief moment, someone will.


I didn't feel haughty though, I felt rather numb as we wrapped up our conversation. It wasn't that D was unwilling to sacrifice for me. Sometimes perspectives can make all the difference. The sacrifices we made for each other never seemed to even touch the surface of sufficiency. I told him we should stay in touch as always. Finish The Office, maybe get a drink. He agreed. His tone was still stoic, his voice a little scratchy and I was sure he could hear me swallowing gulps the size of mushrooms.


I told Valentine that night that I'd had "the talk" with D. He was impressed, and asked how he took it. Fine, I said. He asked how I felt. Fine, I said.


(©2009 Lotus B.)