Monday, December 15, 2008

Coming, Going and Things in Between...




The above photo was taken about a week before I left California for New York. I was getting a drink with my friend George, and in complete denial of what I was about to do. I nonchalantly told friends from work that it was simply a time for change and everyone was impressed with my casual demeanor. I was waiting for George to bring me a second (or third) martini, because as you all can see, I had just polished one off. I remember for that second when he left to walk across that large scape of that scroungy, trendy, over priced bar in San Francisco; I was alone and in silence for a moment. I took it all in and whispered to myself..."better get used to it, trooper."










...but I haven't really been alone.




Wednesday, December 10, 2008

I Must Be the Last Person on the Planet Who Didn't Know....


...That Ne-Yo's fine ass is BALDING...??


I also didn't know he was arrested earlier this year for drunk driving. I'm not really one to keep up with cookie cutter R&B singers who serve no purpose outside of assisting in the consumation of pregnancies across the world....


Hey Ne-Yo...your still a cutie..but lets keep the hats on.


Tuesday, December 9, 2008

10 Things That "Urk" Me...

  1. Americans who use the phrase "cheers". This doesn't make you sound more worldly...it's just annoying.
  2. Fat people who take up two seats on the subway.
  3. Overpriced Manhattan food...even McDonald's is more expensive here. Ugh....
  4. Kids with no home-training.
  5. People who think it's ok to feed their kids ANYTHING.
  6. Celebrities who complain about being popular.
  7. People who just stand in silence instead of saying, "Excuse me..." (New Yorkers don't do this...)
  8. Tourists who ask where a good place to eat in the city is...(wtf?? There are a zillion restaurants, who am I Zagats?)
  9. Women who buy fake designer bags...Your not fooling anyone but yourself.
  10. Women who don't take the time to do their hair or make-up, but spend $40 on fiberglass nail art.

Monday, December 8, 2008

♥My 200th Post!!♥

^My First Week in Brooklyn.

I started this blog about 5 months before moving to New York on my Myspace blog. It wasn't called "I Say Hella" back then, it was just called...like "Blog" or something un-fabulous. At first, aside from my close friends and family, the only person who read it regularly was my ex-boyfriend's girlfriend who was totally obsessed with me because she was convinced he (the ex) was still in love...drama.

So I chronicled the adventure before the adventure...leaving California. Saying goodbye to friends and family...looking for an apartment in Brooklyn with Molly. The mess of emotions that stuck to the walls of the apartment I shared with D during our "technically broken up but still in love but living together" phase.

I guess the real reason I started this blog on blogspot, was because I was so far away from home. Far away from family and every friend I'd ever made. I was in a new world that I had to figure out day by day on my own and no one was around to share that with. So I did what I do best. I wrote about it.

I never started this to gain attention (not that it HAS or anything) I just wanted for my friends and family to get a peek into what I was experiancing and how I was doing. Along the way, I've received emails from perfect strangers who tell me that something I've written has made them think differently about themselves, or about life or love and that's a pretty awesome compliment. I've even had someone ask me how I got up the guts to up and leave California.

"Guts..." I said, "...don't wait for guts...leaving scared shitless is the best way to leave. Find the guts when you really need them."

I know I'll be going home soon. I know New York will always be some kind of strange dream with the taboo of a love affair; just dirty enough to feel wrong and clean enough to feel new. I'm glad I came, glad I'm here and I'm glad I'll be leaving one day.


Thanks to all those who read & comment, I'm glad you get a kick outta my life.

Friday, December 5, 2008

OJ Simpson Sentencing Today


I still can't believe his lawyer went with the , "he didn't know it was illegal..." to break into someones establishment with guns and take them hostage approach.

I've never seen a celeb end up doing actual time for their crimes, so I'm sure he'll get 6 years in some cushy, minimum security penthouse and get out in a few years for good behavior.

Whatev...

Thursday, December 4, 2008

The Other Man Meat

When I was a young girl, a little girl even, maybe twelve or thirteen, I started getting attention from the other kind of man. The kind of man who slowed his car down in the middle of the hot street, cracked his window so that his blaring music streams out and would promptly ask my age. I always replied a year younger than I actually was, sometimes more, just so they might feel a tinge of embarrassment and leave me alone. Sometimes they did, sometimes they didn't.

This is the same kind of man, I found as I grew up, that would befriend me so I would let my guard down enough that I might sleep with him; as if I was incapable of making decisions about sex if not under false pretenses. This would be the man who was incapable of telling the truth, imagining in his head that he held a powers I never gave him. He would be the kind of man who might flash an obscene gesture at me on the train, not thinking of just how that might make me feel inside, or licking his lips at me during the lunch rush even though I'd tried my best to dress conservatively for work. The man with empty eyes, who requires rapture in everything he does, and begs for attention like a 5 year old in the church parking lot. These are the men who make the other kind of man feel like a blue light in the middle of a dark room.

I'm glad I have someone with no misconceptions, no pretend objective, no alternative motive. Someone with more than just the bedroom in his eyes. With more to talk about and less to say. Someone just like me.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Brandy, "Long Distance"

BTW: My Thanksgiving Was Awesome

So aside from just the stretched out weekend, I got an excuse (as if I need one..) to eat like a total glutton. My room mate, Monica and I went to Sylvia's in Harlem for dinner.

When we got there it was so packed that a lady standing near us started complaining about the capacity. "You know she got to many people up in here..." She scoffed, referring to Ms. Sylvia herself as if she alone was responsible for the weight of the room. Although, Sylvia can often be found sitting near the bar in her famous restaurant greeting guests and chatting up the bartender, I doubted she was there that night. Monica and I humored the lady and started up a whole conversation that somehow led to me and D. The lady's unsolicited advice went something like this, " Well, if he ever puts his hands on you..." I shut off all hearing valves after that one. (For some reason that's the third person to give me advice about D beating me senseless....not only do they have the wrong guy, it's proof that not many people in my life know my history with men...) Eventually, the warrior against domestic violence and her husband were seated and all in all she was extremely nice to talk to...
Twenty minutes later we sat down, ordered and received:


Afterwards we took the train back downtown and went to West 4th to a lounge called The Fat Black Pussy Cat, which when referenced incorrectly can come out sounding pretty raunchy...


After stiff drinks and posing with the random antique furniture, we stopped at a sex store to browse for "holiday gifts" for our respective boyfriends. We got home in time to enjoy the caramel and marshmallow covered brownies I got from the cafe at work for us, and hit the sack with full tummies and a Long Island Ice Tea buzz dipped in chocolate...

My night was made complete by a goodnight chat with D, whom I know would never hit me unless I asked him to (wink wink...)


Monday, December 1, 2008

World AIDS Day

Today is World AIDS day, and if there is anything I can do as a blogger to bring awareness of this epidemic that plagues millions of people every day it's pure, simple facts...

-In 2006 there was an estimated 533,000+ people living with HIV in 33 US states (counted among areas with confidential infection reporting)


-Within those states, it's estimated that close to 3500 people will be infected with HIV before the age of 25.


-In New York alone, over 170,000 people were living with HIV in 2005


-The highest population of HIV/AIDS infected people in New York are African Americans at 44%


One of the highest risks a person can take when it comes to HIV or AIDS infection is messing with drugs that severely impair your judgement or involve fluid sharing (like heroin or cocaine use.)


The best prevention is to never share needles, and always use a condom until you are in a committed, monogamous relationship.


There is NOTHING wrong with asking Mr. Handsome if he's been tested, when and how often before things get physical. If Mr. Handsome finds this question to be offensive...that's a hint he probably doesn't feel too comfortable walking into a clinic every 6 months.


Perfectly clean people can be infected with HIV.


And you can have HIV for up to 10 years (sometimes longer) before you show any signs of infection.


The only way to know for sure is to get tested. Get tested every 6 months and between every partner. For a list of testing facilities and free clinics in your area please click here.





Fuck Off, I Need It


Yes, I know

I know there's a TONNAGE of other things that I should spend/save my money for...

Like Christmas, or New Years, or other things...

I know that frivolous spending on things I don't need should be avoided like the plague...


But....

Mamas goin shoppin, bitches.